When the pieces are scattered...

I'm sitting here and I'm thinking about so many people in my life and how they have made me who I am today.  I am so very very lucky.  So many things have happened in the last 9 months and so many new things and changes will be happening ahead.  I'm still standing and intend to be when the smoke and air have cleared... so to speak.  One's sanity and mortality make one take a hard look at things.
I wake up every morning fresh and new and full of new realizations.  What's real.  What isn't.  Who matters.  Who doesn't.  What matters and what doesn't .   Gradually each day you get more answers to those questions and one morning you wake up and it just is.

I had a chance to watch a rerun of Grey's Anatomy and  it struck a nerve.  Callie has to inform a man, a cad, that his girl friend was dead.  His girlfriend loved him so much that she dieted and conditioned herself so hard and quickly that she died. She felt that she needed to look a certain way for him and be a beautiful woman for him.   She gave up herself ... her spirit, her identity and lost her life... for a man she loved.  And Callie says this:

You didn't love her! You just didn't want to be alone. Or maybe, maybe she was good for your ego. Or, or maybe she made you feel better about your miserable life, but you didn't love her, because you don't destroy the person that you love!

How much are we willing to sacrifice for "love"?  How much are we willing to compromise? How much are we willing to accept of another person? How long does it take to realize that a relationship was truly one sided and that you suddenly feel foolish for giving your time and love to a man that never intended to love you back?  How much are you willing to face and realize?

I draw from my own past experiences and the experiences of other women when I pose those questions.  We all ask those fundamental questions when faced to make a decision of what really is real and important.

And as I pose those questions... it reminds me of a song.  Here's one for the women that have huge hearts.

And I wish her insight to battle love's blindness
Strength from the milk of human kindness
A safe place for all the pieces that scattered
Learn to pretend there's more than love that matters
http://youtu.be/uFd8B3vcty4